What is so odd about short guys dating a taller girls?

by Admin on August 26, 2010

Everywhere i go,i noticed the short guys are always being mocked at for dating girls that are taller than they are.Why do people always give a second look to couples where the guy is shorter than the girl?Why the stigma?This is 2009 people!

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seyramb August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

Perhaps the answer lies in the evolutionary history of the human species. On average men have a larger muscular structure compared to that of women? It could be that as we humans evolved, the female of the species tended to select for males with a larger structure. The idea being that larger males would be more capable of hunting and gathering and thus being able to provide better support for females that chose to be their mate. I believe this theory is what is referred to as sexual sexual selection.

As a result of this, as time progressed males became larger than females and with time we have also become mentally attuned to seeing women with a taller and on average larger male. Hence, when we observe women with men of smaller stature the image is at odds with what we would normally expect.

Now I am sure you know that people tend to react to anything that is "abnormal" or at odds with what they are used to or what their mental picture is. It is for this reason that people often take a second look at couples where the man is of smaller physical stature compared to the woman.

Perhaps human evolution is moving away from when women select males based on their physical stature. Perhaps there are some other factors that women seek out like intelligence. Or perhaps there are particular physical characteristics that indicate intelligence, so given several hundred thousand years or so women seen with a shorter man will not be such an oddity.

Just my thoughts…

The Confident Gentleman August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

PRIDE

EGO

self-esteem

Jesse August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

Agreed.
Shouldn’t be a problem anymore…

heavyrocker_1 August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

they look weird together

StefB August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

CUZ IT LOOK WEIRD PPL ARE ACCOSTEMD TO SOMETHING BEING A CERTAIN WAY

bumblebee August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

my crush is shorter than me

thats the reason he dont like me

samalam August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

we’re not used to it.
just like how the republicans dont want a black president.

Madison <3 August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

It’s probably because the ones who make fun are lacking in the pants. If you catch my drift.

softballplaya_714 August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

I don’t know. It’s crazy though. I am 21 and so is my boyfriend. We have been together for over 4 years now and he is about 3-4 inches shorter than me. If you love them it doesn’t matter. People are so judgmental and just need to stay out of other peoples business and relationships.

theguy409 August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

2009 or not… it just is the stereotype we see still and people have a need to go by it apperantly… or its just out of a person’s personal choice…

Lord Percy Wooster IV August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

it looks like a human with a pet monkey

softballgirl771 August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

it’s just weird dating a guy shorter than you, idk why.

miabewwy:3 August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

because guys are supposed to be MASCULINE, not short, and muscular, not thin and lanky—meanwhile women are supposed to be petite and feminine.

well…not according to me, but apparently to society :(

pearlgirblastoff August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

because its weird! im a 5’3 15 yeat old girl and really only am attracted to guys who are 5’9 and up usually like 6’0 though

Aec J August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

SOME boys still think that girls are lower than boys so they find it weird to see a guy dating a girl who’s taller than him.

caaaad August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

I don’t’ think Tom cruise was insecure with Nicole Kidman when she would kiss him on the top of his head. Or if he had to get on his tippy toes to kiss her

Intellectual Foundation August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

It’s just something that isn’t common and people are often taken back by this. As a tall woman, I personally would never date a guy shorter than me and just about all of my female friends feel the same. For one thing, it makes us feel like less of a woman to date a man that is shorter. Secondly, tall guys make a woman feel safe and protected. I think that it’s something that has been drilled into us from society that anything different just feels uncomfortable.

smoky bear August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

I’M TALLER THAN MY HUSBAND–NO PROBLEM FOR EITHER OF US–HE EVEN ENCOURAGES ME TO WEAR HIGH HEELS IF I WANT.

Mr Ron E. August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

I don’t know dude it’s true cause look at tom cruise and katie holmes i mean she towers over him,but i think it’s just that people think guys are like supposed to be taller than their girlfriends,and it makes the guy who’s taller look more protective,and strong enough to stand up for his woman..lol.I hope i made some sense.

Artoro, the Hat/Hdphone Spyman August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

You can’t blame anyone, they have eyes to see and so have you to look the way your like it. Nothing wrong but the wrong is in your mind and not others, they don’t feel it but you do.

Best way to ease yourself out in thinking is to get your girl to wear flat shoes and you, high heel boot. Another way is don’t care a dame about it.

Noni Berry August 26, 2010 at 7:42 pm

I think you’ll probably be able to find the answer to your dilemma at Lisa Daily’s site, http://www.datingexpert.tv (Plus, there’s a lot of good info there.) She’s the author of two dating books, HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP and STOP GETTING DUMPED. It’s one of my favorite sites for dating tips and advice, and the videos are pretty funny.

I’m pretty sure she answers questions that are sent to her, you might try her for an answer to your question.

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