your.halo.is.slipping asked:
one of my best guys friends and one of my best girly friends started dating. im totally fine w/ that but they are sort of blind…. in a way. they dont really notice if they are ditching someone because they have each other. well… if this ever happened to you or you went out w/ your best friends please tell me the story. i really need someones opinion.
one of my best guys friends and one of my best girly friends started dating. im totally fine w/ that but they are sort of blind…. in a way. they dont really notice if they are ditching someone because they have each other. well… if this ever happened to you or you went out w/ your best friends please tell me the story. i really need someones opinion.
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It will work out for the best.
hi, thats an interesting question! lol! 20/F wondering the same thing… holla back
Sounds like you are a little jealous of their canoodling.
it doesn’t matter that they are best friends. what is going on here is love and when you fall in love you are blind to everything around you. Give them some time and the honeymoon thing will wear off and then everything will be back to normal Take care Heather
Well they are together. There not really ditching you. You should get you a guy and all of yall can hang out. Its hard being the third wheel. But you should tell them they should make a little time for you.
Youre jealous and it is normal. I was always jealous of my friends. I never got a bf til later on. I never live without one now and they never have one. It all works out. Don’t be jealous, be happy. It most likely won’t last forever especially because you sound young.
I started to date my best friend and now we have 4 children and have been married for six years. We did the same thing about ditching the others but when they voiced there problems we started to include them more. You just need to talk to them about it.
Well it can be hard but if they break up thats wat u have 2 worry about… but other wise there ur friends and u want them 2 be happy dont u?
It’s NEVER good. I started dating my best friend, got engaged to my best friend and realized that I cared about my best friend as more than a best friend than a lover. It always ends in disaster, it’s never a good idea….but you’ll just have to let them figure this out themselves.
This is what happens when people get in relationships… Their priorities change, and they start “ditching” their old friends. Be understanding. Since I’ve been with my husband (about 2 years now) I don’t do hardly anyting with my friends… My husband is my best friend, period. The friend I used to see every week I now see a few times a year. This is just what happens, it’s normal.
My 11 yr relationship starts with friendship were best of friends. And now I am thinking it is a big regret that I let myself fall hard for him, because a relationship ends but not friendship. So, if they definitely cannot stand loosing each other better be freinds be friends forever.
Since they are among your best friends, I can only assume that they are among each others best friends. That can only be a good thing. It is a huge risk/reward situation. If they stay together the relationship will be great. You want to marry someone who will end up your best friend. If it ends, it will end badly, though and they should recongize that.
well its just me but when that happens separate them because it will get kaouse
i got close to one of my best friends once and she was a really nice person but everytime we got close i kinda chickened out but we are still best friends. she has met someone else now and is about to get married to him next year but i still have feelings for her even though iv got a girlfriend now i still miss being close to her
That happened 2 me….I felt really awkward..2 of my best buds…But I got used to it…But u should talk to them about how you feel.They will understand
This happened to me as well! It ended bad actually, me and my best friend since i can remember (she is my cousin as well) drifted apart… Before this happens to YOU talk to one or both of them about it okay? because it is HORRIBLE to lose your best friends.
Good luck!
OH and if they get mad at you, apologise and dont bring it up again okay! because they should be happy with your apology but still think about what you said!
it’s best to just tell the one you feel most comfortable with how you feel. I know they will say sorry that it was not meant to be that way
It’s just how people are. That seems pessimistic but it’s actually petty optimistic, because knowing that, you can plan ahead by making MANY good friends, or else find out things about yourself that you didn’t know and spend more alone time.
Whenever my friends get into relationships with pretty much anyone, whether they are friends of mine or just people they met somewhere, I always get pushed out of the picture. My friends tend to only like hanging around me when they don’t have love interests or else need my help with something, and I’ve really just taken a step back and decided they’ll come back to me eventually, but I’m not going to wait around for them. I make new friends and go wherever I want to go with my life, when they break up they know that they can always come back to me if they need a friend, and that I’m here for them.
depends on the people really…i had the same thing happen to me…i introduced my best girlfriend to my best boy friend with all inentions that they would hit it off and get together and they did until my girlfriend started to get paranoid about the time i spent with the boyfriend just because they were dating i couldn’t see him any more that really *issed me off so i stoped talking to her as well they got married had a kid and got divorced now none of us talk…i would never do it again as long as i live….my other friend got with a bloke she has been friends with for 10 years all the do is fight and are just about to split…i think friends should just stay friends for their friends sakes…lol
well its complicated becuz it depends how close they are as friends.i went out with my brother’s friend and it didnt work out becuz my brother didnt want us too and we had to sneak around.but now he flirts and everything and wants to go at it again.but really it all depends if they are friends or really good friends.
best friends start dating will become worst enemies. If they are best friends, it is better to stay as best friends and change their relationship.
I married him!
They don’t mean to ditch you. They are just in love and kind of oblivioius.