i am a bornagain christian and dating a stonch catholic man, how do i cope with this?
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Does he not realize Catholicism is a branch of Christianity?
S-T-A-U-N-C-H. Learn to spell.
Either convert, don’t mention the subject, or break up with him. There’s not much else you can do.
Convert.
I’m not kidding. Convert.
As to why? I think I’ll let each religion speak for itself here.
find someone more tolerant (and try spellcheck)
I love how people treat Catholicism as if it’s different from Christianity. It’s basically the same religion. You both worship the same god. You follow basically the same dogmas. What’s the difference?
he’s given you an ultimatum: him or your religion. and you already seem to have your answer: “am just not about leave my religion”. if you loved him enough to convert you would have done it already.
Well, my darling, if he is putting his religion before you, I can promise you a very unhappy life with a man like this, cut your losses petal, and head for te hills Good luckxx
you believe in the same god, even if u didnt it shoudnt be a problem if he loves you…
What has your religion got to do with him?
Mind you, why don’t you BOTH learn? Dump your 2000 year old belief system that came out of the judean desert and get up to date.
I would not marry him. Not because he want you to leave your belief, but because of the fact that you would have to change for him. If you change to catholic and marry him:
1. You might regret it because you is not changing for yourself.
2. He might make you change something else.
3. You love him, but do he love you as much or is in conditional???
Ask him why he bothered to date you in the first place. He needs to be reminded why he chose to have a relationship with you. I think that if he loves you he would marry you anyway. People would make any excuses to be with the one they love.
I am a Catholic. My husband is not what is the difference?
Well, Not much to do.
Apparently he sounds stubborn. If he won’t accept your religion and let it live in harmony with his..Then he’s not worth it.
I would stand firm in your belief if you are born again. This could be a test for you.
I presume you mean that he’s a staunch Catholic.
I don’t know. How do you cope with it?
Do a little research into the charismatic Catholic movement. Charismatic Catholics, though they don’t usually describe themselves this way, are really BOTH born-again Christians and practicing Catholics (think of Messianic Jews if you have trouble comprehending this). This can be the bridge that bring you and him both into a deeper faith. Jesus will bring his fractured Church back into oneness – move forward in faith! God bless you, sister!
PS Here’s a link to start:
Just tell him about the various doctrines in his religion which contradict the bible…….And please do not ever convert to roman catholicism.I too was a roman catholic until I found out the truth.You should love Jesus more than your boyfriend…..
If he doesn’t listen to you,You should get him these tracts
These tracts tell us about the false teachings of roman catholic church
And Roman Catholics are NOT Christians.They do not follow the Bible.They only follow the teachings of their church
And Aleria………Roman Catholics are so firm in their beliefs that they will never give a thought to what others are saying.
Even if you show them Bible verses to show the false teachings of their church,they would never listen to you
So just pray that your boyfriend will be saved………
I understand your concern and me personally could not marry without the husband believing in the way that I do. It would be a battle but I have seen where a non believer married to a believer and just by her walk with the Lord the husband wanted what she had and gave his life to Christ.
Your b/f sounds very strong in his belief and you in yours and there is a big difference. If you are in line with the Lord I would seek Him diligently before making this step into marriage, He will show you in His word among other ways to let you know but you must get alone to seek Him.
I think that this is called unequally yoked. Do some research on that.
My Friend True Christians Don’t Proselytyze and your friend is NOT CATHOLIC ( Gr. Meaning Universal)
Catholic? but Roman Catholic.
I AM A GREEK ORTHODOX KATHOLIKOS ( UNIVERSAL CHRISTIAN
True Katholikos means the Universal Church ( Greek) meaning for all
and FIRST UNIVERSAL CHRISTIANS
RIGHT FROM ANY DICTIONARY IN THE WORLD .
Greek (from katholou) word meaning “throughout the whole,” “universal,” or “general.” It was used by early Christians to describe their faith, in that Jesus was the intended savior of all mankind. Katholikos is where we get the word “Catholic”.
THere isn’t any process of being BORN AGAIN
YOU CANNOT GO BACK INTO YOUR MOTHER’S WOMB NICO
YOU MUST BE BORN FROM ABOVE.. JESUS WAS BORN FROM
ABOVE. MARK `1.1.
You are speaking of Genneo Anothen ( Gr. Meaning BORN FROM ABOVE..
I have baptized you with* water; but he will baptize you with* the Holy Spirit.’
The Baptism of Jesus ( JESUS WAS BAPTISED IN THE RIVER JORDAN AND A THE SPIRIT OF GOD ( FROM ABOVE ) CAME UPON HIS AND SAID THIS IS MY BELOVED SON IN WHOM I AM
PLEASED
9 In those days Jesus came from Nazareth of Galilee and was baptized by John in the Jordan. 10And just as he was coming up out of the water, he saw the heavens torn apart and the Spirit descending like a dove on him. 11And a voice came from heaven, ‘You are my Son, the Beloved;* with you I am well pleased.’
PROSELYTIZE..
In Christianity|Other religions|Views on…|History of…Proselytizing is the act of attempting to convert people to another opinion and, particularly, another religion. The word proselytize is derived ultimately from the Greek language prefix ‘????’ (towards) and the verb ‘???????’ (I come). Historically in the New…
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proselytize
Jesus called all.. but did not force any.. Come and Follow me..said Jesus ( to FOLLOW HIM.. Thus No One should Proselytyze Any..
Just Follow Christ and his Teachings
IC XC NIKA
Kyrie Eleison.
Just keep telling him things such as,Catholics are idolaters,Catholics worship Mary, Catholics do this and this and this etc,etc,etc, and he will either jump of a building or simply run off and either way you are free!
Well I think both of you stop being so gullible and become realistic.
try to explain to him that technically all christians are born again
baptised with the holy spirit Gospel of John, when Jess talks to Nicodemus
and if her disagrees tell him to expalin himself using the bible
as a catholic he puts the pope before God
trey explaining this to him
Though I don’t agree with him giving you an ultimatum like this, I can understand where he is coming from.
Here are some things you have to think about if you were to marry a Catholic:
1. Any children must be raised Catholic. This is an oath that he signs when he agrees to marry you, understanding that you are not Catholic.
2. You cannot use any form of contraceptives (birth control). We are open to life and this includes: no abortions, no contraceptives, no pulling out and so on. The Catholic Church doesn’t really care what you do in the bedroom as long as each time ends with intercourse.
3. You must be married by a Catholic officiate (deacon or priest).
4. You must take premarital classes (these are actually really helpful).
5. You cannot stop the Catholic from going to Mass.
You need to think about these things before you get anymore serious. These are what you must agree to when you marry a Catholic and you are not Catholic yourself.
I don’t agree with his way of doing this, but I understand why. He does love you and so what he wants is for you to be completely, one flesh, one heart, of one mind and of one spirit. You cannot truly get that if you marry one of a different religion.
I know. My husband is not Catholic and it has caused problems. We agreed to raise the children Catholic and now that we are pregnant, he’s balking at raising our baby Catholic. It’s causing me a lot of stress and so I understand where he’s coming from.
I would offer that you two study together and decide what is best, if that means marrying in an interfaith religion, if that means one of you converts or if that means you split up.
See if you can find some common ground or not, but these are the things you must agree to and follow.
I’m sorry to see you two having trouble, but as I said, I can see why he is doing what he is doing.
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Added:
1. Do not listen to Melvin, he is giving you Chick Tracts, a man who is Anti-Catholic as well as Anti-Jew and many more. He is full of hate and hate does not come from God. Chick has been proven wrong numerous times, but many people still fall into his trap and are given incorrect information about Catholicism. Just because Melvin claims he was Catholic doesn’t mean much. If he was, then he didn’t even know his own beliefs.
2. Catholics do not place the Pope above God. We do not believe he is God nor do we treat him as such. The Pope’s title is “The Servant of the Servants of God”. He is our leader until Christ returns, just as in the Davidic Kingdom (Isaiah).
Why not learn about the Catholic faith? You are both Christians. Becoming Catholic isn’t leaving your faith it is enriching it.
Most likely, you only know what you’ve heard about Catholicism, and most likely it is negetive. As a convert to Catholicism, I can assure you that what you’ve heard is not even close to what the Catholic faith is.
I converted 13+ years ago and I only wish I’d come home sooner. I am contiually learning about God, the Bible, faith, the sacraments, and divine truth. Anyone truly seeking God will find the fullness of faith in the Catholic Church.
Here are some sites that may help you learn about your boyfriend’s faith:
Are you saying that the Spirit of God led you into this situation?
Check out the “born again” bit.
For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Understand this answer is coming from a Catholics point of view who is a convert to the one True faith. It is best you two part as friends if possible and as a Catholic we firmly believe our Church is not only the Bride of Christ but the only Church he founded. So like many who could not accept Jesus the Christ sayings or follow him then you in my opinion will be no different than them.Your Boyfriend GOD BLess him is staying true to his promises and Christ. I’ll end by telling you that most of the answers you’ve gotten are from the heart of the carnal human and not what Christ would answer.
He can’t demand that you convert. That’s actually against the laws of the Catholic Church.
However, he CAN request that you take a class in Catholicism and see if you like it or not. That’s reasonable. You can likewise ask him to take a class about your religion and see if he likes that.
Anyway, the class for Catholic instruction is called the Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults or RCIA. It’s free, and you and he should go to class together. You can ask questions and all that so you thoroughly understand Catholicism, but there is no obligation to convert.
You don’t say what kind of born-again Christian you are so I don’t know what kind of instruction class your church offers, but surely you do.
Do one of two things:
1) Accept the fact that Catholics are BORN AGAIN in water Baptism.
If that is unacceptable to you, then:
2) Do not date Catholics!
Your boyfriend is wise.
He can forsee the problems that can occur in relationships where there is “disparity of cult” between the two in a relationship.
Two points.
+ You do not have to convert (unless you want to)
The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-Catholics.
The interfaith couple will have to get permission from the bishop
Anyone married in the Catholic Church has to:
+ Take a pre-marriage course
+ Promise to baptize and educate their children in the Catholic Church.
Here is a good article with suggestions on how to help an interchurch marriage succeed:
For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, sections 1633-1637:
+ Catholics are born again too
Catholics are spiritually born again (and again and again) through:
• Belief in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior
• Living the Gospel to the best of our ability
• Daily rededicating ourselves to Jesus Christ
• Receiving new life in Baptism
• The forgiveness of sins through the Sacrament of Reconciliation
• The infusion of the Holy Spirit by the laying on of hands in Confirmation
• Taking the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ into our bodies through the Eucharist (Holy Communion)
• Even during the penitential season of Lent
These are a few ways that Catholics are spiritually born again. We usually just don’t use those words.
With love in Christ.
To marry a catholic you are NOT required to convert, my mum is catholic and she married my dad who is Church of england. They got married in a catholic church as well.
Then end it. He should not force you to make changes like that. It’s utterly wrong and shows he has a lot less love for you than you of him.
Leave him. The Bible preaches love and tolerance no matter what someone’s background, creed or faith so he should love you for who you are – not what brand of Christianity you subscribe to. By being so judgemental he is being a very poor Christian.
Religion aside, when any man tries to control a woman whether it’s telling her how to dress, what to eat, who to speak to – particularly something as personal as what faith she follows – it’s a VERY worrying sign. If you give in to him on this who knows what he’ll emotionally blackmail you into next. If he really loves you he’ll want you just the way you are. I’d get out now before he starts dictating on more areas of your life. You may love him but if you move on you’ll find love with someone else who will love you for who you are which will be even more satisfying than what you have with him. When you love someone you don’t make them feel bad for being who they are – what he has for you isn’t love, he wants to control you.
To start off, I’d like to make this disclaimer to let you know that I too, am a Catholic man.
From your boyfriend’s standpoint, I can understand why he is so passionate about his faith/religion. In fact, it is without a doubt that life would be easier for couples who share the same faith, as that puts them on the same playing field and removes at least some of the complications of married life.
However, your boyfriend should not force you to convert. As Catholics, we pray that people will have a conversion of heart and one day convert, but… we do not force people to convert. All conversion of heart is done by GOD.
As such, just pray for him and if you are not ready to convert, then don’t. As a Catholic, I would pray that you do convert one day, but would not expect you to.
Well …I do not like the fact he gives you the ultimatum (you shoud smack him), (1 time), (back of da head) ..However what he should do is introduce you to the faith,(slowly) you would not be not leaving your Religion he’s as much a Christian as you. It’s a much deeper Personal relationship with Christ…a deeper understanding …that is if you do your research and learn the true teaching of the Church, don’t be like some and just go to church.. Learn for yourself not from what you hear from othersespecially from outside the Church, Tell him:, Being Baptized ..or being Baptized a Catholic is not enough and is only Part of what Jesus asked of us…Being Born Again alone is Not enough..one must be Baptized as well as be Born Again…But not the Born again understanding that you have currently ..there is very much more to it…I know how feel on Mary , the Saints and asking them to Pray for us..(you know what I am talking about) How do you worship God/Jesus ? by talking to them? reading the Bible and Bible study? Listening to your preacher preach the Gospel? or is your personal relationship with Jesus where you excepted him into your life as your personal lord and savior…enough ..your saved and you can go directly to Jesus. We have can go directly to Jesus as well, our WORSHIP however goes far beyond that of what I just mentioned..And our worship is exclusive to God and Jesus and the Holy Spirit.. there is only one God..Praying and talking to God and Worshiping him are very different…We keep to the covenant he gave us through Jesus..once you see how it is starring you in the Face each time you read the Bible..you will begin to Gain a Deeper understanding of Gods mercy for us..his love .we are all one Body ..by believing and being saved we are to receive eternal life. If we are all one body, we are connected …you can pray for me if I ask..I can pray for you if you ask…isn’t that intercession? This is what we asks of Mary is to Pray for us. She is the Mother of our lord and savior. She is the First woman of the Born Again through Christ…the First Christian, I think it’s safe to say she has eternal life…and therefor can pray for us….not to be worshiped ..but honored ….
this is how I see the difference between you and your boyfriend currently…
Jesus I love you so much. I love you so much that I want to spend all my time with you. I want you in my life always, I never want to talk to your mother or your friends . I do not need them , I just want to spend my whole life with you and love you.
or
Jesus I love you so much. I love you so much that I want to spend my time with you. I want you in my life always. Your mom is welcome to visit our home. Your family is my family, your friends are my friends. The people you love, I will love. We are one flesh and I welcome everyone you welcome.”
I think the second one sounds like a more authentic love. that is the Catholic approach to a relationship with Jesus. It’s what were called to be ..
your boyfriend could use a refresher course with a statment like that…
1 Time……back of the head