EverChanging asked:
im not used to having guy friends but suddenly its happening: im bonding with guys other than my bf. How do i know if they are being friendly and not flirting? How do i draw the line of friendship? What do i do if they do flirt with me? im not used to all this male attention! my bf doesnt trust me around guys cuz i messed up once. Can i still have guy friends and gain his trust at the same time?
im not used to having guy friends but suddenly its happening: im bonding with guys other than my bf. How do i know if they are being friendly and not flirting? How do i draw the line of friendship? What do i do if they do flirt with me? im not used to all this male attention! my bf doesnt trust me around guys cuz i messed up once. Can i still have guy friends and gain his trust at the same time?
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Depends on him, If you “messed up” while you were with him, you are lucky to still be with him.
well duh u can but i guess if he doesn’t trust u than just try not to hang out with guys alone
Yea, just treat em like your girl friends. unless your bi.
ohhh that might be kinda difficult since you screwed up….. first explaing to your guy friends the limits, explain it it a non-awkward way…and try your hardest to get your bf to trust you…it’s understandable if he can’t though.
Just make sure your bf trusts you and you trust him.
Relationships are build on trust.
as long as he don’t get jealous
good luck
relax, you can have guys friends but if they make a move on you then you tell them no and tell your bf before he hears about it other ways. and just be careful not to be too flirty back. good luck!
Yes, it is. Here is the test if they really want to be your friend. A guy who just wants to be friends with you will be comfortable with the fact you have a boyfriend and you will bring him along where ever ya’ll go. If he flakes out when you minchin your boyfriend, then you know he is looking for more than friendship. Just make sure who you think are your friends, and who are really your friends. This is the only way to know. Those who are your friends will accept that you want to be with your boyfriend and will accept him coming with you to places.
-C
breath. in. out. okay
first of all… THEY WILL FLIRT
they are guys!! they want girls.. nothing changes…
your bf just cant care that much.. and if he is too protective then DROP HIM …. but you have to remain loyal
it depends on u can have any 1 as friends until and unless u know to control ur self
-no offense
Make sure your Boyfriend knows the guys your haning out… and try to hang out with them when you around your boyfriend. Or hang out with them with your girl friends… that way they aren’t just paying attention to you.
umm well you could try to act normal and yourself around everyone. your boyfriend should allow you to have guy friends. Just dont flirt back with the other guys. like each time they flirt with you just think of how you bf would feel if he was there. (:
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my gf has alot of guy friends too….i only have one rule….she can have any guy friend she wants but if she knows he is trying to get with her then that makes me feel uncomfortable…..cuz it’s desrespectful to me and her…but in your case is he doesn’t trust you to begin with then it’s gonna be hard…..gain his trust first ok…..and as far as guy friends its ok to have them but if you know they are trying to get with you then it’s not a good idea to hang with them….guys never know what a girl wants until you straight out tell him….so if your honest from the get go and alwayz tell him whats goin on i dont see a problem with gaining his trust
I’m strangely beginning to get some guy friends too. lol Why wouldn’t your boyfriend trust you? So you messed up once, but obviously he still likes you if you guys are still going out.
Maybe he’s just jealous. Don’t act too into any of your guy friends and make sure to make time just to spend with your boyfriend so that you remind him how much you like him. Hope that helps!
dw and tell him there’s nothing there just friends ok?
tell ur bf that there just friends normal friends just a different gender
yes. if he doesnt trust u then u shouldnt be with him. u can def be friends with guys. just make sure u let them kno that u have a bf. if they try and get with u or make u feel awkward, just tell them to grow up and that u r happy with ur relationship. just show ur bf that u wont make the same mistake again. just be strong hun. i used to cheat a lot and then i realized it was dumb. but now my bf trusts me cuz im able to tell a guy tht im not interested(even if hes rlly cute or i liked him b4). if they dnt understand, then theyre not worth ur time and theyre just gonna make u cheat. best of luck! : ) if u need n e help let me kno.
If he’s too jealous he’s not worth it and will just lead to problems later on. If you have friends, know that your consent is the only thing that will cross the line of friendship.
Yea Most Guys Like It
Especially If Its One Of Their Friends
Just dont act like a flirt
or be careful if he is a jealous kinda guy
or easiest of all ask plain out if he minds
I kno you probably wanted a girl to answer but sometimes a guys perspective is better
My husband and I struggled with this as well when we were dating. I always had boy-friends more so than girl-friends. Just the realness of the guys and not having to second guess or offend someone just made it easier. Plus they always had your back when needed. Its important for your guy-friends to meet you your boyfriend. Do some group hang outs together to ease the tension that your boyfriend has. Things do change slightly when you have a boyfriend. I would hope that if these guys are your friends, they wouldn’t try to flirt with you. However, I had this same problem and because he didn’t respect me or my relationship, I unfortunetly had to let that friendship go. Its funny that when you are “taken”, how quickly your supposed friend realizes he missed out on a good thing. Just be careful and keep your boyfriend involved.
Let me ans all your question… First, yes! you can have a guy friends as many as you want and no one can stop you there, and you can gain his by telling him everything about your friends and try to hang out with both of your bf and your guy friends. Well there is a boundary between being friendly and being a flirt. By being friendly is just hang out with them, let’s say playing video games or pool. And being a flirt is doing like one on one hang out thing.
From past experience and from seeing what has happened in a few friends’ relationships, it’s going to be pretty hard. The first step is to talk to your boyfriend and see if he’s comfortable with you talking to guys or else some major problems can occur. For me being a guy, it’s easy to tell when a guy is just flirting with a girl. If they try to get you somewhere alone like going to the movies or going to their house or something chances are he doesn’t want to be just friends. If you have a boyfriend don’t go along with their flirting, tell them that you have a boyfriend and you really like him. In my past relationships it has been difficult trusting her when she talks to a lot of different guys but I try not to accuse them of anything, I just stay a little cautious. Good Luck.
yes but it’ll take time first all you have to do is think of the thing
i know this will help
you guy friends do if there sweet or if there trying to impress you
and watch as they act around other girls with around you
and if not around you watch if with bf
if he acts the same arounds most them he’s a real friend
now for you bf be around him most of the time than guys
and if he’s that causion be alittle needy around him it helps
have fun with him and make him see that he can trust you
by acting a certain way around others
ok then.? ok bye
The limits depend entirely on you. No offense but you sound as if you were prone to be unfaithful and unsure about your feelings toward your boyfriend and on top of all this you sound as if you were too flirty. As if you were to jump on the guy if the opportunity comes. Course you can have guy friends as he can hang around with girls but do not hurt his feelings or provoke his distrust because believe me: if he realizes that you “might” mess up again he might forgive you, he might say he trustS in you still and apparently nothing happens but…pay attention: HE WILL START TO GIVE HIMSELF THE LIBERTY TO ADMIRE OTHER GIRLS and compare you and well, there is always someone better than us.
PLAY FAIR , ALL RIGHT?