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that you’re not? Every friend of mine ( i mean every) has a boyfriend/girlfriend or dates. I’m 17, I could get a boyfriend, but i don’t care for serious things. Dates would be nice, but I never meet anyone. Who has been in this situation and what did you do to deal with it? Also how do you deal with people thinking your lame because your single? Also the 3rd wheel situations. Answer away, I love hearing experiences But NO rude comments.
that you’re not? Every friend of mine ( i mean every) has a boyfriend/girlfriend or dates. I’m 17, I could get a boyfriend, but i don’t care for serious things. Dates would be nice, but I never meet anyone. Who has been in this situation and what did you do to deal with it? Also how do you deal with people thinking your lame because your single? Also the 3rd wheel situations. Answer away, I love hearing experiences But NO rude comments.
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Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. – Dr. Seuss
The only pressure put on you is the one you’re creating for yourself. I was bullied too when this happened to me, but the only opinion that matters is your own. As long as you’re happy, and okay with being single then it shouldn’t matter. To me, you should be living your life the way you want to – because you have to live it. There’s no point in doing something for the happiness of others, when it won’t benefit you. You’ll end up making yourself miserable, and I can bet your friends first solution to curing your unhappiness is breaking up with the person they forced you into dating.
Just laugh when your friends joke about it and move on. If they’re really good friends, then they should be okay with you the way you are, and be willing to listen to why you don’t want to date.
Well I didn’t date until I was 17. I was a late bloomer and too caught up in choir, art class, and being nerdy to fully realize that my friends were all happily dating. It wasn’t until I was in my junior year of highschool when I seriously dated. The boys before that were just child like crushes and flings. The thing is, I started getting nervous that I would wind up alone because I am very picky but love kind of fell in my lap that year. I met who is now my husband by playing dodgeball with the hipster kids during the summer and we’ve been together ever since. I guess what you can take from this is relationship bliss shouldn’t be looked for and you shouldn’t really worry. It’s okay to be picky because the guy for you is the guy you least expected. If your friends are dating, support them and explore your own self. You aren’t defined by the person you date. You have a good personality and you can use that to your advantage in any social situation. A person who waits can make rational decisions without the drama and mess of a cliche relationship. You aren’t lame. The prettiest girls actually do get picked last. Besides, your friends relationships will blow over at some point and they’ll need you to put them back together. So remember you are strong.
Perhaps guys are just intimidated by you. You are intelligent, open minded, and very attractive. A lot of guys see this as kind of threatening but at the same time they find it very sexy.
3rd wheel situations? Just be bubbly and try to talk to the couple and not just one particular person. Make it known that you are independent and smart, they might actually like having you around. When they go all pda and kind of alienate you, excuse yourself and go flirt with the cute guy on the other side of the room and let them have their infatuated make out sessions (lol). Confidence is always lovely.
Just remember that something good isn’t something you look too hard for.